Boys are a lot of work. They fight, they yell, they fight with you, and lots of the time, the smell. There is a good thing about boys though, their parents don’t have to pay for their weddings! Just because you aren’t going to be paying for a wedding, it doesn’t mean that you can just sit back and do nothing. While the bride’s family worries about the financial side of the wedding, there are also many things that the parents of the groom have to do to get their man ready for marriage. Here are the top 3 things to do when your son is getting married:
Share the Medical History of the Family
Talk about your family’s medical history. You don’t have to talk about your uncle who is always doing strange things, his crazy taste in clothing, or his inexplicable love of giraffes. But, you are going to have to tell the family about his depression, and how he is a cancer survivor.
Many families have skeletons in their closets, but a marriage that is bringing two people together should be respected. After all, the woman that your son is going to marry is the one that is going to have your grand kids. If you want to help her know whats coming, do her a favor and tell her about the medical conditions that your family has.
Make Plans That Are Financially Wise
Know what you can (and can’t) afford to give. If you want to make a huge downpayment on your son and daughter-in-law’s new home, that is a very kind thing to do. But if you can hardly pay your bills, don’t do it. Sure, you want to help your son and his wife have the best chance, but this is probably not a good idea if you can’t afford it.
After all, you probably didn’t get a huge downpayment on your first home either. If you can afford it, that’s fine. But, if you are going to set yourself up for financial peril, don’t sacrifice it. Your son and his wife have their whole lives to become financially stable.
Rewrite Your Wills
Talking about when you will die is not a very fun subject for anywhere. But, it’s better to talk about it now rather than later. You need to talk with your spouse to determine who gets what.
You can talk about if you want to include your daughter-in-law. You don’t have to split your children‘s inheritance with her, but don’t forget to include her. She will probably be offended if you don’t even as so much mention her in your will.